Be authentic

"We have to stand up for what we believe in, even when we might not be popular for it.  Honesty starts with being ourselves, authentic and true to who we are and what we believe in, and that may not always be popular, but it will always let you follow your dreams and your heart." Tabatha Coffey

You have mastered the art of not hearing evil, then you have taken up courage to carry on, being authentic is the third survival tool that you need to have.  How often have you heard 'if you cannot beat them join them?' Yes, you might feel compelled to join them but then what?  Before you know it, you feel you do not belong there. You were kind of forced to join where you would normally not join. Talk about 'fools treading where angels fear to!' One has to always remind oneself, there is only one you in the entire world.  You are unique, you are special, you have to be real. If you do not do it yourself or rather if you cannot show that you are you and you alone, who will act on your behalf? Who will execute your duties? Who will truly depict your true character? Remember you are motivated to carry on, you cannot do so if you live a lie. Yes, in not being authentic, that is what you are portraying both to the world and yourself. In no time, you become unhappy, regrets creep in, you hate yourself for having deviated from what you have always believed in, that is, being you. How often have we found ourselves making decisions because so and so has done it or did it? For example, getting married for the sake of getting married or what they call marriage of convenience? Does that ring a bell? You do all that just to be like so and so or to belong to a certain group in a society.  There is nothing more hurtful and disappointing than being in someone's skin. I know by now someone is nodding their head and saying that is so me. I am in deep already.  It is too late now to be regretting. There is nothing I can do about it. Guess what? You are wrong, absolutely wrong. It is never too late to make a U-turn no matter what. Remember, by the end of the day, you are doing it for yourself and nobody else. This might sound selfish but the minute you realise you are doing it in good faith, you will feel the relief deep inside you. You don't even know how much heartache you might save yourself or your so called partner by just being honest with self. No one will live your life for you.

Until we meet again, I dare you to be authentic!